Growing in the middle of adversities!
This week has been specially difficult in different aspects of my life. There are times where everything just breaks down at once, and you wonder whats is going on! After many trials in my life, I learned that my attitude in the middle of difficult circumstances play a fundamental role. There have been times where I behaved like I didn’t care about what was happening to me, that was a big lie because internally I was suffering. Other times I have felt sorry for myself and complained why life is so hard! This attitude is understandable but It didn’t solve anything and in the end, I added my depression and self compassion to my problems, and believe me it didn’t help! Latterly, I have being trying to assume a different attitude and recognize that I am going through difficult times, and that although it hurts, I can use those situations to learn something, to become better somehow.
Being a graduate student in high energy physics has taught me valuable things for my personal life. Things to fix, difficult programs to write (specially the ones that never compile and when they do, they don’t do what you expected ) and tons of physics concepts to learn, have been in my daily life for the last three years and a half. When something doesn’t work, I can not just sit down and cry feeling sorry because my code doesn’t work. I have to fix it somehow. Sometimes I have to get help from other people, or just look in google read about it and try to give it another shot. In the end, when I fix the problem (that usually is just couple lines of code that I didn’t know) I realize that digging around trying to solve the problem, I learned so much about other things, that it impresses me. So, I thought why do not try to have the same attitude in my personal life? I realized, and I know that for many readers this is not something new, that difficult times are just an opportunity to grow, to challenge ourselves, to become better. There are things that probably we’ll never forget, for example when you lose someone you love, it is hard but we have to keep moving and give our best in honor of those who loved us and can’t never be again with us.
Let me finish with a phrase that I know it might be controversial, but that so far, has been very true in my life: That which doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger. -Nietzsche.